There are a variety of reasons for marriages to end in divorce, and according to some sources about half of marriages in the US do. Cheating, addiction, abuse, and simply growing apart are some of the main reasons couples decide to go their separate ways. Whatever the reason for the dissolution of the marriage, there are a few things to remember when filing for divorce.
1. When it seems there is no hope of salvaging a relationship, emotions will run high. It may be difficult, but making certain the only solution is divorce should be considered carefully. Often, couples find that they can reconcile their differences instead of choosing to go their separate ways. Take the time to consider all your options, so that you are certain there is no other choice.
2. Choose the right attorney. Both the husband and the wife should have their own lawyer who will listen to all the facts and provide advice that is unique to the situation. Some divorces are amicable while others can get quite messy. If there will be a battle over the family home, child custody or support, alimony, or visitation, the attorney should be qualified in these types of issues.
3. A good support system is important when going through such a difficult time in your life. It might be family or friends that are there to give you the moral support that is needed. Listening and offering advice means a lot when you are going through an emotional time. If you do not have this type of support, you may want to see a therapist who can help you get through the divorce and help you to make the decisions that will need to be made during this time.
4. You and your spouse will need to make a decision about the home you have been sharing while divorcing. Will one spouse move out and let the other one stay? Many couples decide that one will stay in the home, particularly if there are children. It is much less disruptive for children if they can stay in the home where they have lived most, if not all, of their lives.
5. Before filing for divorce if there is something that you were planning to replace or purchase that you really want or need, go ahead and make this purchase. Once the divorce is filed, the judge will likely not allow anything that is considered a marital asset to be sold or transferred to anyone else. If you have property or anything that you had been considering selling, do so before an order is issued that would prevent you from doing so.
A divorce is often the only answer to a situation that is not working out for one or both partners. When you choose to end your marriage, there will be times when you wonder what you have done. Try to keep the situation from getting out of hand. Arguing, screaming at each other, and engaging in destructive behavior will just prolong the divorce and make it more difficult.